So you’re starting a new raid? I have to say, it’s little like starting a new relationship*. Everyone’s excited and has a lot of expectations. With that in mind, I offer some advice.
Go in Prepared
Everyone needs at least 5 healing pots. Those with blue bars take at least 10 mana pots. Elixirs/flasks will give you the edge your raid needs, so get some! Take 2-3x more buff mats than you need. Make sure you are fully repaired. If you have a raid right when you get home, make a habit of repairing before you log off.
Put in the Time
One should be (healthily) invested in how the raid does, however, not downing a boss should not ruin your night. Don’t bail on the raid the first time you don’t down a boss. Be prepared for a disappointment every now and then and don’t dwell on it. Sometimes it takes a few runs for everyone to trust each other and settle into a rhythm.
Why Won’t They Listen to Me?
Giving unsolicited healing advice? If you’re on your warlock, people might not listen. People don’t like advice from people they think aren’t qualified to give it (especially if it’s right). To work around that, find a healer/dps/whatever friend and have them make the suggestion to their peers. Don’t take it personally, people are just difficult sometimes.
Please Don’t Go On About Your Ex
No one wants to hear about how you did it, how fast it was, or how fun it was with your last raid. A good leader has considered all factors and has selected the strategy they feel will work. If you have a suggestion, please make it in private if it is the first attempt. This is not to say don’t speak up after a few failed tries, just give the current strategy a shot.
Don’t Be Jealous
Upgrades are given to those who need them most, especially tanks and healers. This doesn’t mean you’ll never get that purple, just that you might have to wait. Make sure your loots person knows you are interested, but don’t spam them. Remember, the expansion is coming up and we’ll will be leveling again soon so it’s fair to ask for leveling spec gear as long as no one else needs it first.
“Bad” Habits
Please turn your flag off. You can quickly do this by /pvp then taking a flight path. Some members have kids/parents in hearing distance, so check before dropping the f-bomb in vent/ts. Don’t be a bloody drunken fool during raids, people will notice and remember even if you don’t. Smokers, gently remind the leaders you need a break a little before you’ll need it. Considerate leaders will let you know when the next break is.
Don’t Go to Bed Angry
Remember that you’re playing a game. It’s your $15 a month and you shouldn’t let anyone ruin it. Remember why you got into this raid in the first place. Because it was fun, you’re with friends, you like new content, or you wanted new loot. If it’s really bad, find a friendly ear and commiserate. If you can, let things go and focus on a better run the next time.
When You Need a Break
If you’re getting overly upset or stressed, you need a break. So, give your leader adequate notice-a week please-and take a raid off. Chances are when you come back the next time you’ll be over it and have fun again. If this becomes chronic, however, it may be time for them to find a permanent replacement.
*CAUTION! This guide may not be applicable to interpersonal relationships. In case of spouse aggro, please discontinue WoW use immediately and seek your spouse’s attention. Similarities to any raid, current or disbanded, are purely coincidental. Opinions expressed should not be construed as useful advice, or in fact, anything useful at all. Drama llama sold separately. Mana batteries not included.
I’m sure I must a have missed some thing or another, so please add anything I missed in the comments!